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Thais
Hello and welcome to the Personal Development School podcast. I'm your host. Thais Gibson, and I create regular podcast episodes to teach you about your relationships, attachment style and the subconscious mind. My goal of this podcast is to give you tools and awareness you need to thrive in your relationships, feel deeply connected, and find harmony and fulfillment in your relationships and personal life. So I hope you tune in here with me each and every week.
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Thais
I want to talk to you about some really common limiting beliefs about money.
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Thais
we're going to talk a little bit about where these beliefs come from. So, so much of our programing around money at the subconscious level specifically comes from obviously anything we're exposed to to repetition over time. So, for example, if you have parents growing up who constantly say things like, we don't have enough money, well then the repetition over that over time is going to become your own programing, most likely, unless you have something significant in your life that alters your course, where you get a lot of new repetition over time about something else.
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Thais
So that can have a huge impact. Number one, anything we see or is modeled to us in general is going to have a huge impact. Anything we hear, which is what I just said, and then anything that we have firsthand experiences around. So let's say you're in a family dynamic and then there's a big loss of money you might believe as a result of that.
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Thais
Like, you know, anytime you obtain something, you're likely to lose it and it's going to hurt or something bad will happen. You know, I hear a lot of these beliefs around people sort of programing. And why this matters is because your subconscious mind, as I mentioned at the very beginning, is really working hard to maintain its comfort zone.
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Thais
It really desperately wants to avoid change. And so while your conscious mind can say, okay, I want to make more money, I want to make more money if you have needs that are out of alignment with that, if you don't have any personality needs at a subconscious level that are driven towards that end, or if you're in a position where you show up in your life and your subconscious mind says no, something bad will happen, or money causes conflict and chaos and arguments.
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Thais
And I don't want to threaten my relationships by making more money or people will be jealous of me or all these different beliefs. I've heard from so many people over time. I mean, everybody is different ones. But but then what happens is your subconscious mind says no to your conscious mind. You're going to let's go this way. Or someone says, Nope, this way, and your conscious mind can't out will or overpower your subconscious mind.
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Thais
It can, however, reprogram it. So when it cover if you like, really common beliefs here. And I said like ten, but you know, I'm going to go through quite a bunch of common ones.
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Thais
So some of the really common ones are this I can't save money. Guess where it comes from. What's model to you in childhood? Right. If you saw a lot of spending and not a lot of saving, then through repetition, that's going to become your own program.
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Thais
I can't earn more money. I'm not good enough or I'm not capable. Again, we can get that through a lot of messaging we receive from our external world for a number of different reasons. Or we can just see individuals that were around struggle with that, and that can be the modeling that create their own subconscious programing. I'm undeserving of asking for more, or I am undeserving of having more very common, limiting beliefs that are really important to pay attention to.
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Thais
Because what we'll do is our conscious mind will say, I want to raise and her subconscious will sabotage having that conversation. So you can see the magnitude of impact that can take place, especially when this is happening over and over again in different forms across years, if not decades of our lives. If I value money, I am greedy or bad.
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Thais
I want to be really clear about something. Money will magnify who we are. Okay, So if you are somebody who is good natured and cares about contribution, you'll want to contribute to more people's lives. If you are already somebody who struggles with greed and has painful patterns around that, then yeah, of course it can make you you know, that can become more magnified in different forms.
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Thais
But, you know, it's hard to sort of block out one entire area of the seven areas of our life as a holistic person and say, this area is bad. This part of me is bad. Money touches everything. Every area of our life touches all the other areas, right? If we don't have good relationships in our life, it affects how we show up to make relationships in their career.
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Thais
If we are really struggling financially, then we're struggling in a way where we can't have healthy exchanges and take turns, you know, hanging out around people and maybe even like raise a family sometimes because we can't afford to. And that really affects our relationships. Like there's so many different ways that everything sort of spills into everything in all of these seven areas of our life are uniquely interconnected.
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Thais
And so it's really important that we allow ourselves to say, look, I don't have to like money is the very top of my priority list in life, but I would like to have an empowered relationship to each of the seven areas. If I don't, then that disempowered area that's one of the seven areas is going to eventually disempower all the other areas.
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Thais
Another really clear example of this is if you're just to focus on only career and finance and let's say you're not focused on physical health area of life, then maybe at some point in time you have to go take time away from physical health because you're having a health issue and now it's affecting career invited. So you'll see over time everything will touch something else and we can really mitigate these things by being proactive instead of having to learn things the hard way.
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Thais
Another really common belief that I'll hear is I don't have enough value, okay? And sometimes, you know, you've heard this little quote. It's like our net worth. Our net worth is equal to our self worth. And I don't think that if we're arrogant that that helps. I think that when we strip back a lot of limiting beliefs about ourselves not being worthy, not mattering, not being good enough, not being lovable, you know, when we reprogram a lot of those limiting beliefs, the subconscious level, we have a healthy sense of confidence and self-worth.
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Thais
It's rooted and grounded, not sponsored from a place of feeling arrogant.
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Thais
Another big one is I don't trust myself with money. I've seen this a lot over time. I've also seen really common ones. People will be jealous if I have more money. Money causes conflict between people and especially if you're somebody with a high need for emotional connection in relationships.
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Thais
Sometimes you'll really shy away from trying to make more money or, you know, making that an empowered area of your life. Because if you believe it's going to hurt my relationships and your relationships are super meaningful to you, then you're not going to want to go there at all, not realizing that over time it can actually hurt your relationships to be disempowered in that area.
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Thais
And hopefully we have people who aren't valuing relationships just based on money. But of course, like if I can't pay for my children's bills one day or something like that, then that's really, really stressful and will hurt the relationship dynamic. And the more stressed I am as a person, sometimes that spills out onto other people as well. So there's a whole bunch of other ones that are quite common.
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Thais
But I'll leave you with like one or two more. Something bad will happen. I mentioned, and also I don't know how to receive or I will feel guilty if I receive. So just pay attention to these things. Notice what comes up in your head. I'm a bird and if I receive a notice that we usually adopt these programs from childhood, they show up in different areas and then they become a part of our behavior because our belief patterns at a subconscious level, sponsor thought patterns and emotions and then behaviors and our behaviors are directly related to our beliefs.
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Thais
So if we again, the really clear examples, like if I believe I'm not worthy of a raise, I'm not asking for the raise even if I'm working so hard at work, maybe don't feel like I have that negotiating power because I don't believe I'm worthy at a subconscious level. So this can really deeply impact us in so many different arenas and it's really important to get in charge of this.
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Thais
Thank you so much for being here and I hope to see you on the other side.
