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Thais
Hello and welcome to the Personal Development School podcast. I'm your host. Thais Gibson, and I create regular podcast episodes to teach you about your relationships, attachment style and the subconscious mind. My goal of this podcast is to give you tools and awareness you need to thrive in your relationships, feel deeply connected, and find harmony and fulfillment in your relationships and personal life. So I hope you tune in here with me each and every week.

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Thais
So what was the last time you were intensely triggered? Maybe it was something painful that your partner said or an inappropriate comment from a coworker, perhaps a back and forth with a parent or simply a car cutting you off on your way home from work one day. Whatever it was, you probably remember the story of what happened and you probably remember who was there and what they did to you.

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Thais
And while we might not understand why we can be so triggered in seemingly small situations, at times the scenarios can completely ruin a moment or change your mood, sometimes for an entire day. So taking the time to understand the underlying subconscious core wounds that are actually causing the trigger is essential and much needed self-development work. But it usually takes time, effort and guidance, and it's not something you can really do in the precise moment you are triggered until you have the appropriate tools.

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Thais
So what do you do in those moments when you feel a rush of emotions that overcome you? Well, I'm going to give you a quick tool that can help you more immediately calm down and regulate your emotions. Using somatic processing, that simply means paying attention to the physical sensations in your body the moment that you're experiencing the trigger and all of that emotion, not the story you're telling about what happened, how fair and fair the situation was, what you should have done next, what you should say or do not have that stuff.

00:02:14:20 - 00:02:36:11
Thais
None of this actually matters in the very moment that the experience is occurring and all you have to start by doing is just noticing how your body is feeling. If you are angry, what does that feel like in your body? Does it feel like heat in your chest or a boy in your stomach? And if you're feeling sad, what does that feel like?

00:02:36:13 - 00:03:01:12
Thais
Can you describe it using mental images or by tuning into different sensations? Again, like a nod in your throat with sadness or a heaviness or weight's on your shoulders and chest. Just become curious about the sensations going on in your body as you experience the emotion itself. And this will help not just lower the intensity of the emotion, but then you can also balance it out.

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Thais
If you feel like your chest is on fire, for example, then pour an imaginary icy glass of water on it. And the reason we do this is your subconscious mind speaks to emotion and it speaks through imagery. And so by using sensation, which is what emotions are made up of and combining imagery, we actually help to equilibrate some of the stored intensity at the level at which it's occurring.

00:03:24:20 - 00:03:49:04
Thais
We have to use the conscious mind to speak to the subconscious mind because this is where a lot of that triggering is coming from. If you feel like your stomach is entangled in a knot, try to visualize the knot coming undone and through the power of visualization, we are letting our body know that we are okay and that we're not in this fight or flight situation, which allows us to then calm down more and to relax.

00:03:49:06 - 00:04:15:19
Thais
And sure, once you're grounded, I definitely encourage you to work on yourself and discover what those root causes were, what those limiting beliefs were, or triggering wounds that came up to bring up that trigger in the first place. And in the personal development school, you'll find lots of courses on reprograming the subconscious mind reprograming these limiting beliefs and understanding your needs so that you can really work through these different dynamics at play and stop the root causes once and for all.

00:04:15:22 - 00:04:42:24
Thais
But being able to regulate our emotions when we are triggered in that moment is a game changing skill that will have a direct impact on your mental emotional state throughout the course of the day. You see, emotions are just these neurochemical processes that are nervous system produces to help us be aware of what's going on in our internal reality so that we can then meet our needs just the same way we experience hunger when our body needs food or thirst when we need to hydrate.

00:04:42:26 - 00:05:01:09
Thais
Similarly, when our mind perceives something, then anger may come up and if your mind curses something like it's afraid it's going to be abandoned, then perhaps sadness will come up or fear will come up. And this is the way of telling you, Hey, go get these human needs met. Go get your need for connection. Met, go get your need for safety met.

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Thais
So instead of wishing our emotions away or repressing them, numbing them or avoiding them, we need to feel them. And this is what somatic processing is all about. So we want to get out of our head, get into our feelings, and then be able to release them and equilibrate them using those tools that we discussed.

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Thais
Though, I have some exciting news, which is that we are doing $1,000 off of our lifetime membership sale to the personal development School, which means you get access to literally everything at PDS for your entire rest of your life. Essentially, that entails all of our different courses. You have lifetime access to. I do four life webinars a week every single week.

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Thais
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Thais
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Thais
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