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Hello and welcome to the Personal Development School Podcast. I'm your host. Thais Gibson, and I create regular podcast episodes to teach you about your relationships, attachment style and the subconscious mind.

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My goal of this podcast is to give you tools and awareness you need to thrive in your relationships, feel deeply connected, and find harmony fulfillment in your relationships and personal life.So I hope you tune in here with me each and every week.

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We're going to talk all about the different attachment styles and some of the different patterns they have in the workplace specifically. And what this can help you do is sort of recognize some of the likely strengths and weaknesses you have. Remember, it's not necessarily always one size fits all, but of course there tends to be really, really strong and prominent patterns for each attachment style and the way that they have these subconscious programs that they bring into every single one of the seven areas of their lives.

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So what we tend to see for anxious, preoccupied, attach themselves specifically is number one, we tend to see anxious, preoccupied. Individuals tend to be very sensitive to other people's feelings and needs in the workplace. They often value teamwork. They tend to feel like they're their needs. Buckets are getting filled by being around people in some form. They tend to be quite encouraging of other people very aware of how other people are feeling as a whole.

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Very sensitive to different potential conflicts, very cooperative with others. Often make people feel very seen and heard, work well with in sort of group assignments, group tasks. It tends to be respectful, thoughtful, inclusive, self-reflective, helpful and quite supportive. And as a general rule, apes tend to do well, like working in tips and anxious individuals as well. Some of their downsides are weaknesses, essentially, or I guess we could say challenges that they may tend to face are that even though they can be so considerate, charming, caring, open sometimes they can do that at the detriment of the relationship to themselves and their own work.

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So sometimes one of the challenges will see anxious, preoccupied individuals face is that they can people please to the point of like not being able to get their own work done or taking on too much for others and not being able to set very good boundaries in the workplace. And this may even faster. Things like gossip or resentment long term if the anxious, preoccupied individual doesn't feel safe or comfortable learning to express their needs at work.

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And I've actually seen many clients over time who are anxiously indulged. And what I would see as a fairly common pattern for apes is that they would get into a situation in the workplace where they wouldn't say notice about self and they would take on and help so many people around them, which is really great and can and can be very helpful at work.

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But then they would feel like they just fall behind and fall behind on their own work. And this common theme and pattern to the point where they would even like get in trouble at work, get reprimanded, but not change the pattern. And this is where when they would come to me and tell me these things would be okay with you.

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Subconsciously. Programing on people Pleasing the fear of setting boundaries. The fear of saying no in the workplace. Because we may see, you know, this actually apes would share things with me, like all their coworkers got promoted over the years and they stayed in the same role and how frustrating that was. So it's important to really recognize that these patterns that may be coming about.

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Another big thing is apes can, as one of their challenges, can struggle with getting involved in workplace politics sometimes. And again, it's because they have such a need for like connection, approval care and feeling like they're sort, you know, that they're fitting in, that they're included, that they're, you know, sort of in that like status, you know, space in the center of that center of attention of the workplace.

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But just feeling like they're like included in everything, have that really strong social component that they're often looking for at work and sometimes as a means of getting that they'll they'll gossip or they'll get too involved in those sorts of things. Again, sort to the detriment of their work at times. And sometimes apes may find themselves not really speaking up for their own needs at work and also can be so focused on being disapproved of and fear disapproval at times that it can be manifest in the forms of like self-doubts, feeling afraid of like really just communicating where they're coming from and like really feeling strong and empowered to set a boundary as a whole.

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So we'll see a lot of these patterns. It tend to be quite intense and obviously the core ones will tend to see most often are the fear of being rejected, not being good enough, fear of being disliked or excluded. If you're being seen as bad in the workplace and the fear of abandonment that will often take place in the form of like, Oh, I'll be fired, like I will be left out, you know, sort of hung out to dry, like abandoned, separated, kicked out, like all these forms of that, or being left behind.

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One of the big things that you'll see overall is that apes can be great leaders. They can work well in teams. They're they can be very uplifting to other individuals. And they're really good at creating cohesion between other people, not just including themselves, but also creating cohesion between multiple parties in the workplace, which is really nice. And they tend to make people feel really welcomed, comfortable.

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They tend to be good at sharing and they may struggle or feeling isolated, right? If they're feeling sort of like not even just excluded, but they have to do isolating work like work by themselves. So those are some of the key points. If you want to take a deeper dive, you can absolutely check in with the attacks themselves in the work place course we go through in there, like how to handle conflict, the needs decision making, what motivates them, how to communicate, what triggers them about others, where they can struggle, managing their time like a whole bunch of things beyond just strengths and weaknesses.

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So I hope this makes sense for today.