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Thais
Hello and welcome to the Personal Development School Podcast. I'm your host, Thais Gibson, and I create regular podcast episodes to teach you about your relationships, attachment style and the subconscious mind. My goal of this podcast is to give you tools and awareness you need to thrive in your relationships, feel deeply connected, and find harmony and fulfillment in your relationships and personal life.

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So I hope you tune in here with me each and every week.

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I want to talk to you a little bit about how to recover from burnout. Tool Number one is to actively become aware of your thinking and your belief patterns that often put you in a position to be more likely to be burned down. Here's why. Throughout the day, we have different things that elicit emotional responses. One of those things is our belief patterns.

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Because if we have an automatic activated belief pattern, let's let's pretend the belief is I'm unsafe at my job. Let's say then that belief pattern is going to spark feelings that are uncomfortable. And so we have these programed beliefs. The moment our boss criticizes us, that belief is going to be activated. I'm unsafe. I'm going to lose my job.

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And belief and thought patterns tend to go hand-in-hand. And when we have this core belief triggered, we can start feeling this feeling of being unsafe, which is then likely to also just trigger more thoughts. And thought patterns trigger emotions as well. And these things go hand in hand. We often have belief and thought patterns that are then triggering more painful emotions.

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So let's say, for example, you had criticized your interpretation of that criticism, could be, oh, this person's trying to give me a hard time because they believe in me. Right. So your perception, which is basically made out of your beliefs and thoughts, is going to dictate your emotional response. These things are subconscious or perceptual patterns are subconscious. If we can become conscious about them and recognize that they're happening and reframe our beliefs, reprogram our beliefs, create a cognitive reframe around our thinking in real time, then we can change the way that we feel as is particularly related to burnout.

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What I see the most is people have a lot of thought and belief patterns that are oriented towards pressure. I'm not good enough. So to put more pressure on myself, I'm not worthy, so I better overcompensate on my worth. I'm not doing enough. I shouldn't be itself. I have to be improving. I have to be. And I noticed on a very strong basis, people who are burnt out always are coming from a place of lack in relationship to their life or their career.

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And it's like lack of being enough, lack of being capable, a lack of being far ahead enough, lack of being financially stable enough, lack of. And it's just like this constant pressure. And what you have to realize is that if we're thinking roughly 60 to 70000 thoughts per day, which is based on a study done at the University of Southern California's Neuroimaging Institute, if we're thinking that on an ongoing basis that are triggering emotional responses, those emotional responses are also made up of neurochemical reactions.

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So now we have these emotional responses, followed by neurochemical reactions like cortisol that are wreaking havoc on our nervous system and our bodies ability to regulate itself and even wreaks havoc on our immune system response over time. So you have like the neurochemistry for a burnout if you don't correct your beliefs and thoughts. So you can start by doing this literally by writing out like, what are my patterns, what are my thoughts throughout the day?

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What are my thoughts about my work, my career, my life? What are my thoughts about myself? What beliefs do I carry? And the more you can services to a conscious level and do the work to reprogram them, the better. If you want, of course it will help you really specifically three programing. We have a 21 ways to reprogram your subconscious mind course inside PDFs.

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I highly recommend checking it out. You can pull three or four tools that you love and can keep on your back hand or whatever the expression is keeping the eye, giving you the expression, but keep in the back of your mind is one expression and just have those on hand for for your whole life. Right? Like at any time we're going through a problem or a pain point like, Oh, this is the reprograming tool I use to help myself move through this more effectively.

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So that's number one. And number two is we have to learn to meet our unmet needs when we have chronically unmet needs in our lives. What ends up happening is we feel chronic pain and I mean emotional pain like I don't necessarily mean physical pain, although I do believe that the emotions over time because of the chemical response that we have around emotions or what emotions are made up of are essentially neurochemical reactions over time.

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This can have an impact on our body, too. But when we have, let's say, for example, I have an unmet need for one connection and let's pretend I live alone and let's pretend that I'm in lockdown and all these things are happening over time. It's going to hurt. And until that void is filled in some form, I'm going to keep having that pain of hurt.

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Except for that, that can only be resolved when I go correct the issue. And that pain is there to support me. It's there to actually give me feedback. Hey, you need that done that. The same thing goes for stress. If we're doing something that we do not like that is totally out of alignment with our needs, we're going to feel chronic despair, resistance, procrastination, frustration, stress, overwhelm by what we're doing.

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And these emotions over time are going to lead to burnout as well. Number three, we have to learn to rest and recharge our nervous system. Sometimes people can be in an heightened or upregulated state for very long periods of time. And as this is taking place for long periods of time, you can get into a position where because you're so upregulated, your nervous system is always in a sympathetic nervous system mode, or at least much more frequently in that mode and not in parasympathetic nervous system mode.

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And we can sustain that for quite some time. But over time and after a long period of time, we actually have nervous system dysregulation and dysfunction can occur. We can feel chronically stressed, tired. It's like art, we can feel sleepy, but it's like you're you feel like like physically tired, but your mind won't shut off. And it's not a very nice feeling to feel for people.

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And so it's really important that we learn. Nervous system regulation tools are a big part of this is using different tasks, right? Like actually having time where you were doing activities and tasks that are down regulating at a very high level. Some different things you can practice are meditation, active, relaxing, mindfulness, mono tasking, light stretching or walking yoga, all these different things that are actually there to relieve stress and help us stay regulated, present, grounded, breathwork, all these different things.

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So it's really powerful stuff. Our next major tip here is to learn to hit the reset button. Sometimes when we get really focused on something, we can get so focused. And if you're like me, this is something I am totally guilty of, an act of We have to practice in my life. I can get so focused when I'm interested in something that like it's like I put the blinders on to everything else in life and it's really valuable to be able to just pause, go outside of that little box of your focus and and take a step back.

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And that's usually where a lot of beautiful things come from. Creativity, new ideas and new perspectives. Innovation is when we get outside of our little box of focus. And while it can be useful, of course, for periods of time to be like laser focused on stuff, there can be downside for prolonged periods of time, especially when we're not aware of this stuff and when we are being in such a laser focus state that it's to the exclusion of other areas of our lives, like physical health, just being able to relax, being able to spend time with family and friends and recharge.

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So hitting that reset button can be very valuable to break up those patterns. And number five, find a way to do more of what you love. The more we do what we love, the more purpose and meaning we have, the more energy we have to put into things and the less resistance we have, which create, the less stress, the less havoc on our nervous system, less negative neurochemical reactions over time, and can be hugely powerful.

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The way of doing that would be to sit down, ask yourself what are what are five ways to incorporate more of what I love, what I'm passionate about, what I'm naturally always interested in researching. And it can be in your actual career or it can be in your off time, so you at least have a counterbalance if you are not able to, for example, leave a career immediately.

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